Mark - my initial reaction is, if you need to ask this and you are working with 230V, you're gonna end up dead sooner rather than later. Please get some qualified help with this if you can. This relay looks like it could drive a 1 or maybe 2 horsepower motor (1 KW or so) maximum. If you're motor is bigger than this, you need a thing called a contactor which is a heavy duty relay.In many countries, unless you ARE qualified, it's illegal to do work like this!
The photos are not that clear but it looks like your relay is configured as follows
However don't take my word for it. Get a multimeter (You do have one, I hope?) and meter the A1 and A2 connections which I have labelled Coil 1 and Coil 2. You should get some resistance between them - not zero, but anything from a few ohms up to a few hundred ohms, depending on the coil voltage. I trust that you know what the coil voltage is and have a suitable drive for it?if that is right, then get your multimeter and look between the two contacts lablelled NO1 (Normally Open 1). These should have infinite resistance (open circuit) between them, and also have no resistance to any other contact. Then do the same with NO2.Then, if you can, activate the relay. If the coil voltage is 230V be VERY careful, use insulated lugs if possible to minimise the risk of contact. You should hear the relay operate and you should not find almost zero resistance between the two NO1 contacts, and also between the two NO2 contacts.The large lug on the right looks like a mounting point and should not have any connection to any of the other contacts.If ANY of the above does not make sense to you, or if you get different results, or you don't have a multimeter, DO NOT PROCEED! Get someone qualified to help you. The money you spend on an electrician is worth it to be sure you will live out your natural life! 230V can kill you easily!If you've got this far and all is as above you will wire as follows
Mains live to right hand NO1 contactMotor live to left hand NO1 ContactMains neutral to right hand NO1 contactMotor neutral to left hand NO1 ContactAnd a suitable voltage to drive the coil from whatever is switching it.Please write back and let us know you are still alive!